Lesson learned!
May. 20th, 2020 03:48 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
ayayamadaThis is a bit TLDR...so gomen/sorry ^^;;I feel that I need to let this all out...some of my friends already knows about this...
All of us would encounter people that some would end up as your friends or acquaintances, some would also end up as your close friends. It's normal that some friendships would fade after some time, and that's okay, some would have a not so good friendship though.
I have my share of that experience..
I consider this person as a my close friend and we are both tobikkos/fangirls as well so its good right? So for years, we have been through a lot, its normal to have little arguments sometimes as I think this would strengthen the friendship right? we even recently went on a vacation outside the country!
Now last year things turned sour.. I really consider this person as a close friend however, I would notice that she would sometimes be aloof when we're together or would prefer the other person's company. I am a sensitive person but of course, I just enjoyed our vacation, plus there was a JUMP concert and we went sightseeing. I opened up to her though before our next trip, what I felt etc, we had a little misunderstanding the year before and we were able to talk about it and we were able to patch things up then. So when we talked about it, so all were good, however during the trip, after a few days, she would always walk ahead whenever we go sightseeing, walk really fast eventhough she said she would match my pace or I'll just tell her which places I also want to go. Unfortunately some time during this vacation, I felt that she didn't want my company. Even going back home when we were in the airport, walking back, she was like 6-8 feet ahead of me always. I was like um...eh? (a big question mark on my head)
sample pic of when we were walking to the train station, she just walked fast and just kept walking with her luggage XD:
sample pic when we got home and landed, she was walking so fast and already at the front, not waiting for me:
This wasn't the end though, on our Christmas party, I would message her beforehand about the preparations and what time she can come etc but no reply. When she arrived, not a hi or hello to me. Okay, I was busy anyway with handling the program and guests..
Fast forward to another trip this year January (in Fukuoka). All were good until the time I went to the airport a day early as I have an earlier flight back to the PH. Due to the Taal volcano tho, my flight was cancelled, I dmed my friend about it and she said just stay there, its safe here etc. I told her that, my flight was cancelled and I don't know when the next flight will be and I don't know where to go...and she didn't replied anymore....Imagine...I'm alone in the airport, I don't know anyone in the flight as we were told to go down the airplane then grab our luggage, it was night time, It was already around 10pm and the airport in Fukuoka closes at 11pm, I don't know where to go, my friend doesn't reply to me anymore... ...but the good thing was that the friend that toured me was monitoring me and she told me to go to their house, if I can make it etc. I had to hold my tears during this time going to her house via train, take note the ride took 1 hour @_@ ....
Dm with the other girl when I said my flight was cancelled.
That was her only response :-/
So yup, I told my mom about this when I finally got home 2 days later in Manila...she was so angry..my dad, I rarely see him mad, he was sooooo furious. My other friends were so sympathetic towards me, even when I was in Japan, one asked if I need money and she'll lend me some if I need it... I was like omg...this friend of mine is MILES APART, is in my home country...and she offered to help me...
So I just dmed my friend, my mom told me to thank her for the tickets etc then stop messaging her (mom said if she she'll see her in person, she'll lecture her and if she was in my position, she knows that I'll do everything to help her...) ....buut my friend just seenzoned or never replied.. so yup.. I think I did everything right? I gave my friend 3 chances already... sadly tho, she's one of my close fangirl friends...in the end she just left me hanging...
I just wanted to make this entry so as to just get this in writing and move forward. This is a reminder or a wake up call as well I think, we should value our family and friends more. Never take them for granted. Also for me, I learn to value more the people who sympathized with me, those who dmed me while I was stuck in Japan...I was surprised so many dmed me as flights were cancelled..even my parents, my mom was panicking and told dad to contact his client who was a pilot etc etc...
In the end...I learned a lot during this experience. I learned that some friendships doesn't last, but you would learn a lot from it. Looking back, I realize that experience, being forced into that situation of being along in a foreign country at the same time your friend not helping you....made me stronger..
To add tho..I'm not angry at that person...I am just extremely disappointed... 😞
All of us would encounter people that some would end up as your friends or acquaintances, some would also end up as your close friends. It's normal that some friendships would fade after some time, and that's okay, some would have a not so good friendship though.
I have my share of that experience..
I consider this person as a my close friend and we are both tobikkos/fangirls as well so its good right? So for years, we have been through a lot, its normal to have little arguments sometimes as I think this would strengthen the friendship right? we even recently went on a vacation outside the country!
Now last year things turned sour.. I really consider this person as a close friend however, I would notice that she would sometimes be aloof when we're together or would prefer the other person's company. I am a sensitive person but of course, I just enjoyed our vacation, plus there was a JUMP concert and we went sightseeing. I opened up to her though before our next trip, what I felt etc, we had a little misunderstanding the year before and we were able to talk about it and we were able to patch things up then. So when we talked about it, so all were good, however during the trip, after a few days, she would always walk ahead whenever we go sightseeing, walk really fast eventhough she said she would match my pace or I'll just tell her which places I also want to go. Unfortunately some time during this vacation, I felt that she didn't want my company. Even going back home when we were in the airport, walking back, she was like 6-8 feet ahead of me always. I was like um...eh? (a big question mark on my head)
sample pic of when we were walking to the train station, she just walked fast and just kept walking with her luggage XD:
sample pic when we got home and landed, she was walking so fast and already at the front, not waiting for me:
This wasn't the end though, on our Christmas party, I would message her beforehand about the preparations and what time she can come etc but no reply. When she arrived, not a hi or hello to me. Okay, I was busy anyway with handling the program and guests..
Fast forward to another trip this year January (in Fukuoka). All were good until the time I went to the airport a day early as I have an earlier flight back to the PH. Due to the Taal volcano tho, my flight was cancelled, I dmed my friend about it and she said just stay there, its safe here etc. I told her that, my flight was cancelled and I don't know when the next flight will be and I don't know where to go...and she didn't replied anymore....Imagine...I'm alone in the airport, I don't know anyone in the flight as we were told to go down the airplane then grab our luggage, it was night time, It was already around 10pm and the airport in Fukuoka closes at 11pm, I don't know where to go, my friend doesn't reply to me anymore... ...but the good thing was that the friend that toured me was monitoring me and she told me to go to their house, if I can make it etc. I had to hold my tears during this time going to her house via train, take note the ride took 1 hour @_@ ....
Dm with the other girl when I said my flight was cancelled.
That was her only response :-/
So yup, I told my mom about this when I finally got home 2 days later in Manila...she was so angry..my dad, I rarely see him mad, he was sooooo furious. My other friends were so sympathetic towards me, even when I was in Japan, one asked if I need money and she'll lend me some if I need it... I was like omg...this friend of mine is MILES APART, is in my home country...and she offered to help me...
So I just dmed my friend, my mom told me to thank her for the tickets etc then stop messaging her (mom said if she she'll see her in person, she'll lecture her and if she was in my position, she knows that I'll do everything to help her...) ....buut my friend just seenzoned or never replied.. so yup.. I think I did everything right? I gave my friend 3 chances already... sadly tho, she's one of my close fangirl friends...in the end she just left me hanging...
I just wanted to make this entry so as to just get this in writing and move forward. This is a reminder or a wake up call as well I think, we should value our family and friends more. Never take them for granted. Also for me, I learn to value more the people who sympathized with me, those who dmed me while I was stuck in Japan...I was surprised so many dmed me as flights were cancelled..even my parents, my mom was panicking and told dad to contact his client who was a pilot etc etc...
In the end...I learned a lot during this experience. I learned that some friendships doesn't last, but you would learn a lot from it. Looking back, I realize that experience, being forced into that situation of being along in a foreign country at the same time your friend not helping you....made me stronger..
To add tho..I'm not angry at that person...I am just extremely disappointed... 😞
